Even couples in the most healthy marriages argue from time to time. But those in unhappy marriages are likely to argue in a more toxic way and about certain topics. If you are going through a rough patch in your marriage, you may be starting to wonder whether divorce is a possibility. To gain a better view of this, you may want to consider the types of arguments that you are frequently having.
By understanding the current health of your marriage, you may be able to address the underlying issues. If divorce is the most likely eventuality, you’ll also be able to take action to put a divorce strategy in place. The following are some of the most common arguments that couples have before filing for divorce.
Arguments about being taken for granted
When the romance dies in a relationship, one or both spouses may feel that they are not appreciated for what they do. If appreciation is not communicated and if complaints become more frequent and toxic, it’s likely that one or both spouses will feel taken for granted.
Arguments about a lack of sexual intimacy
Sexual intimacy and intimacy in the relationship, in general, are usually closely related. If a couple is not happy with each other in their day-to-day lives, it’s likely that they will not be sexually intimate. This lack of intimacy may create a vicious cycle that leads to even more tension.
Arguments about using the children against each other
When a married couple has children, arguments can become even more complex. Arguments may arise regarding how a child should be treated or disciplined, or married couples may argue about using another child against them. While children are a key part of married life, it’s important that couples try not to argue about their children or bring them into marital problems. This can be very harmful to the child, and they are likely to notice the tension even if they were not directly involved in the argument.
If you are struggling due to constant arguments in your marriage, you should consider whether therapy for counseling could help your relationship to get back on track. You may also want to have a contingency plan so that you are prepared for the possibility of divorce.