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Narcissists make divorce a miserable process

The process of ending a marriage is challenging. Not only are you dealing with the legal matters, you're also having to handle the social, emotional and logistical aspects. While there are many things that can make it more difficult to go through the process, having to deal with an ex who's narcissistic is one that can make things much worse.

If you're dealing with this situation, you have to think ahead so that you can determine how you're going to react to various tactics the narcissist will use to try to control the situation.

What is spousal maintenance?

When two people go through a divorce, one spouse will likely suffer financially as a result. This is because married couples tend to be financially dependent on each other. If you are considering divorce but you are worried about the way that you will be negatively affected from a financial perspective, you must take the time to understand how spousal maintenance works.

Spousal maintenance, otherwise known as spousal support or alimony, is governed on a state level. Arizona takes a needs-based approach when deciding whether to award spousal maintenance to a spouse, meaning that the outcome will depend on your circumstances. The following is an overview of what you need to know if you want to gain spousal maintenance in Arizona.

Community property issues that can arise in Arizona

The experience that you will have when going through a divorce will likely depend to a certain extent on the state in which you are divorcing. This is because state laws dictate many aspects of divorce, including how assets are divided. If you are going through a divorce in Arizona, it is, therefore, important that you observe the laws in place so that you are prepared for what to expect.

Arizona is one of the few states in the country that recognizes community property. This means that the state views all marital property as being equal, regardless of which spouse contributed most to the acquisition of funds. This means, as a general rule, all assets that are deemed to be marital in a divorce will be split between spouses 50/50. The following are common community property issues that can arise in Arizona.

Every divorce case is unique

If you decide that you want to ask for a divorce, your first instinct may be to talk to your friends or family members who have gone through it. You want to find out what it was like for them and learn what steps you should take. You want to know not only what mistakes to watch out for but how to get this process going.

It can help to talk to those who have done this before, but be very careful about taking direct advice from them. You can't compare two divorce cases. They are all unique, depending on the specific facts of the case. Let's consider come of those facts.

Choose the best divorce dispute resolution method for you

For many facing a divorce, the way that disputes are navigated will be one of the most defining factors for success. Just like in any challenge, the way that adversities are handled can be the difference between success and failure.

The most traditional choice when handling a divorce dispute is to go through litigation in court. While this can be appropriate in particularly complex cases, litigation fees are expensive and going to court to make a case against your ex can be a stressful and traumatic process. This is why many divorcing spouses decide that they want to engage in alternative dispute resolution methods. The following are some of the most common dispute resolution methods that you may want to consider.

Think twice about moving out during a divorce

Tension, hostility and anger usually come as part of the territory when going through a divorce. This is why it is common for one spouse to want to leave the family home during the process. They will likely see many positives to this: It will prevent the children from being witness to arguments between their parents, it will allow both spouses to spend time apart and it will enable the divorce process to move forward more smoothly.

These positive outcomes are usually true for most couples who live apart during the divorce proceedings. However, it is important to recognize that the person who has chosen to move out may experience many negative ramifications. The following are some reasons why you should think twice before moving out during a divorce.

Children can suffer negative impacts of a divorce

Children may have to deal with many impacts when their parents divorce. Unfortunately, this situation usually can't be avoided. Parents who are in this position need to take steps to help their children thrive. This means addressing the challenges of divorce and teaching your kids coping strategies.

Parents must pay close attention to what their children are doing and saying during the divorce. You have to look for clues about how to help them because they might not be able to relay those needs to you. As you spot potential areas of concern, take the time to discuss them with your ex so you can be a unified front of support to your kids.

The determining factors for child custody in Arizona

State laws can vary when it comes to family law issues. This is why it is important that you pay attention to the law that applies to the state you are living in. Arizona, like the majority of states, has adopted the Uniform Child Custody Act (UCCA). This means that Arizona child custody laws are compatible with other states that have adopted the UCCA, and therefore, interstate child custody conflicts are minimized.

If you have recently gone through a separation or divorce and you have children with your ex, it is important that you understand the intricacies of the law when it comes to child custody. While the general rule is that the courts will make a ruling on what is deemed to be in the best interests of the child, there are more specific principles that you should be aware of.

What to expect when going through an uncontested divorce

Every divorce is different because of the unique scenarios that each couple faces. For this reason, it is impossible to predict the exact timeline of a specific divorce. However, there are certain factors that directly influence the length of the divorce process. One of the biggest factors that affects this is the question of whether the divorce is contested or uncontested.

If you are considering going through a divorce in the near future, it is important that you take the time to conduct research into the law. By understanding the most typical timelines, you will be able to plan your life around these milestones.

You can ask the courts to enforce a child support order

Whether you have just left your partner and are waiting for a divorce hearing or finalized your divorce a while ago, if you have more parenting time than your ex, you probably spend a lot more money on the care of your children than they do.

The courts try to offset that additional cost incurred by the parent with primary custody by ordering child support payments from the other parent. Although child support really only represents a fraction of what it costs to care for a child and provide them with the basic necessities of life, it is still an important resource for divorced families and single parents in Arizona and around the country.


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