As a parent, you know that one of the biggest challenges of getting divorced is learning to share parenting responsibilities with your former spouse. These difficulties can intensify during the holiday season.
According to the Pew Research Center, approximately 16% of children in the U.S. live in a blended family, and this family structure can pose certain challenges for parents trying to share parenting time during the holidays. The following tips can help you minimize arguments and maximize time with your children during the holiday season.
Make arrangements in advance
Plan ahead for what the holiday season will look like with your children. Determine with your spouse who will get to spend time where and when. If you and your co-parent are on bad terms, try to put your children’s needs ahead of your own during these negotiations.
Discuss activities and gifts
Refrain from trying to outdo your former spouse during the holiday season. Talk to your former spouse about what gifts your children will receive at which house and which activities each parent will take responsibility for.
Consider a joint celebration
If you and your spouse are open to it, consider celebrating the holidays together with your children. If you opt for this arrangement over the holidays, commit to no yelling or arguing during the celebrations.
The holidays can be stressful, especially if you recently got divorced. Try and be flexible during the holiday season and focus on providing your children with a good experience when you have them.