When you got married, you likely did not see your marriage ending in divorce. But divorce is a common experience for many couples, and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention states that in 2018, 782,038 couples in the U.S. filed for divorce or an annulment.
Even if your divorce is amicable, you and your spouse may still have trouble talking about issues like property division, child custody and spousal support. These tips can help you and your spouse communicate more effectively during your divorce.
1. Focus on divorce-related issues
As you settle your divorce, it is easy to fall back into talking about controversial or emotionally charged topics. When you speak with your spouse, try to focus specifically on topics related to the divorce process.
2. Set boundaries
You and your spouse are likely very familiar with each other, so it may be hard to set boundaries for your relationship as you begin your divorce. Determine when you will speak about your divorce and what method of communication (i.e. text, phone calls or email) you will use.
3. Watch your tone
Communicating sarcastically or angrily can make it harder to talk about divorce-related issues productively. Try to maintain a businesslike, platonic tone when speaking with your spouse.
4. Avoid conversations when upset
Talking to your spouse about your divorce when angry or upset can lead to additional frustration. Wait to communicate about your divorce issues when you are calm and can focus on the conversation without too much emotion.